Heat 1 teaspoon oil in a wok or karahi or skillet. Add coriander seeds, cumin seeds, cloves, cardamom pods and dried red chilies, broken into pieces. Saute until the coriander seeds are a light reddish-brown and all the spices are very aromatic, about 2-3 minutes on medium heat.
Add 1 cup of chopped onions (approx 1 onion) to the wok and saute until the onions become soft.
Add peanuts and sesame seeds to the wok and saute for a couple more minutes over medium heat. Remove all of this to a plate and set aside to cool.
In the same wok, without adding more oil, add the grated coconut. Saute, stirring constantly, until the coconut is golden-brown. Don't walk away from it because coconut burns fast. Remove the coconut to the plate with the spices that are cooling.
Add the cooled spices and coconut to a blender and blend into a coarse paste with just enough water to keep the blades moving. You don't want a runny paste because you need to stuff this into the eggplant.
Place the blended mixture in a bowl with a cup of chopped onions, half the cilantro, goda masala or garam masala, jaggery, turmeric, cayenne and salt. Add enough salt -- maybe even more than what you would normally be comfortable with, because this is the only time you will season the recipe. The eggplants will absorb some of that salt along with the spices. Mix well.